I've been through dating someone, being engaged, getting married and having children and I feel like I'm always being asked ... Is he the one?, have you set a date?, are you trying for children?, are you going to have more?
What is wrong with taking time and enjoying the current relationship state?
Chris and I did have a very short engagement (13 days) but that was due to legalities and it worked for us. There's that saying "when you know, you know" and that applies to us. We knew each other for a little over a year and a half and were dating for almost a year. We spent that year traveling between NY and Canada and we knew we were over that and ready to be together in one place.
We both knew we wanted to start a family as soon as possible and within a year and a half of getting married we welcomed our first daughter into the world.
Then the pressure started ... "Are you going to have another?" "How far apart do you want your kids?"
In all honesty I didn't want another one at first, with all of our pregnancy/fertility issues I was happy with one. When people would ask me those questions I really wanted to say "does it concern you ... No so stop being noisy"
We decided when Madison was a year and half we were ready to start trying, we had enjoyed Madison has a new burn and we were ready to experience that again.
So almost 2 weeks ago we welcomed our second little girl to the world and already I have been asked if I want more!!!
Come on people can I have time to leave the hospital first?
At the moment we have no plans for a 3rd, we are enjoying the blessings we have been given and also trying to find time to ourselves. Learning to be a mom of 2 and a family of 4 is not an easy task... Balance is key!
So to everyone asking dating couples... You don't know if they have even discussed the next step and by throwing an engagemt out there might not be the best thing especially if they aren't at that stage yet.
To everyone out there asking any newly engaged couples... Chances are no they haven't set a date 10min after they got engaged, I doubt the first thing they are concerned with is calling a venue!
To everyone asking new married couples... Let them enjoy being one as a couple before putting the added pressure of bringing another life into the world!
To everyone asking new parents... Just stop, let them enjoy having a healthy little one to love. They know have to try to build their relationship as parents.
To everyone asking 2nd time parents ... Again stop, you don't know what they went through to have just one, so to have another is a great blessing that they should have time to enjoy!
Unless you are directly affected by the decisions they make I highly suggest you stop asking when they are going to move to the next step.
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